• Emily Stetzer / 0 comments

Take control of your anxiety with these six reminders

1. "Brave the uncomfortable"

Anxiety is uncomfortable. We start to sweat, our chest tightens, and we suddenly feel the urge to run in the opposite direction. We try to find relief by either avoiding triggers or pushing the discomfort away. But, when we avoid discomfort, we avoid taking risks, trying new things, and creating positive change for ourselves. We let this discomfort dictate how we live our lives.

When you allow yourself to feel the anxiety, you’ll discover that the discomfort does not last forever. The more you challenge yourself to brave the uncomfortable moments of life, the more willing you will be to take advantage of the opportunities presented to you.

Perfect for those who:
• go with the flow, avoid confrontation
• avoid taking risks
• are afraid to be honest
• are hesitant to go to therapy

Replaces: "Good vibes only"



2. "Embrace uncertainty"

When a thought about the unknown crosses our mind, we can’t help but search for an answer. It’s difficult to surrender ourselves to the discomfort of not knowing. We have to accept that there are some things in life that we do not and might not ever know. When we reject uncertainty we allow ourselves to suffer more than we need to.

Resist seeking the certainty and quick relief that you crave. Instead of pushing the discomfort away, try pushing through it. The more resilience you build, the easier it will be to let go of trying to answer these unanswerable questions. Embrace uncertainty and you’ll start to find comfort in knowing that you don’t need to know everything to live your life in the present moment.

Perfect for those who:
• keep clothing they haven't worn in years "just in case"
• double, triple, & quadruple check anything before hitting send
• love to ask "what if?" and "are you sure?"
• have to read every review before watching a movie
• use their daily horoscope as a roadmap
• enjoy list-making

Replaces: "It will all work out in the end"



3. "I am separate from my mind"

Our minds tend to dwell on thoughts that produce worry or guilt, echoing them over and over until we become attached and mistakenly identify them as the truth. But, when we learn how our brain actually works we discover that our thoughts come and go involuntarily. Just because they exist within our mind, does not mean they hold any meaning outside of it.

Allow the thoughts to enter your awareness, without becoming personally invested. Give them the space to come and go without needing an explanation. When you create some distance, and remember that you are separate from your mind, you’ll notice the urge to decipher every thought will fade, and the desire to live in the present will strengthen.

Perfect for those who:
• assume having any doubts means they are doomed
• feel bad for "even having that thought"
• go to WebMD anytime they feel "off"
• interpret every dream as a sign
• overthink everything

Replaces: "Think positive thoughts"



4. "I let go of what I can't control"

Sometimes we feel we have the power to control all areas of our life. When something doesn't go the way we imagined, we do everything in our power to reverse the outcome and extinguish the frustration that comes along with it. We spend time ruminating on things – our health, our future, or the actions of others – that we don't have control over. Let's focus on what we can control: our reactions and behaviors.

Instead of allowing your anxiety to hold you back, choose to move forward and adapt in a world that is constantly changing. Resist your temptation to regain control and free yourself from unnecessary suffering. Let go of what you can't control and grow into the person you want to be in the present moment.

Perfect for those who:
• let a little bad weather ruin their day
• try to change the way someone feels
• need to get everyone out the door on time
• always want to make everyone happy
• need to stick to their 5 year plan
• hate sitting in traffic

Replaces: "Never give up"



5. "It's okay to feel how I feel"

We've been conditioned to think that if we feel unhappy or anxious, we must act quickly to mend the situation. We're often told to "stay positive" or “life’s too short to be sad.” But the truth is, the more we resist those feelings, the more suffering we endure. We heal more deeply when we allow ourselves to truly feel all of our emotions.

Rather than pushing your true feelings aside and pretending that you are okay, give yourself the respect and the space to feel however you feel in that moment. Let your emotions come to the surface. When you accept that it’s okay to feel how you feel, you'll be able to use the clarity to act truer to yourself and your beliefs in the present moment.

Perfect for those who:
• apologize for being a "downer"
• think they're broken if they don't feel sad when they're "supposed" to
• think they need to be happy all the time
• go out even when they don't feel like it
• say they just need to "snap out of it"

Replaces: "Happiness is a choice"



6. "My thoughts are passing clouds"

When we become overwhelmed with anxiety, our natural response is to quickly find relief by identifying the source and acting accordingly. This natural response hijacks our attention and pulls us away from the present moment. Though we can't remove anxiety completely, we can reduce our suffering.

Imagine observing your thoughts as if they were clouds in the sky. Watch them float by without speculating where they came from or where they are going. When you are able to see your thoughts out of the confines of your mind, you’ll gain the strength to sit with them and the emotions that come with it. When you're feeling stuck in a spiral of anxiety, remember your thoughts are passing clouds.

Perfect for those who:
• let their anxiety stop them from enjoying the moment
• find their mind easily drifts off during a meeting
• often go down a rabbit hole of anxious thinking
• fixate on the past
• obsess about the future

Replaces: "Just don't think about it"



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